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            There is no signal to say this one is, or that one is; he maybe, or he is for sure! The increasing numbers of men that are engaging in homosexual activity but also in relationships with women are increasing. The issue has always been in existence since times of past; what makes it an issue is that now women are finding the scattered pieces of the men that are participating and some are speaking out while others are in disbelief or a state of non-compliance with their own instincts and lay-down and settle for it.



Tuesday March 11th, 2014 while on Facebook ; a young man get a friend request from a lady. This not unusual for him as he accepts the request and moves on. Within seconds of accepting the request a message comes in from the same lady. The young man looks at the message to read: “Hello I have question for you.” “My Boyfriend is ____ and I want to know if you have been messing with my man?” The man looks over the profile of the lady and recognizes that he knows her man. To save all emotions from flying into a fury he replies to her, “No.” But on the other end of his thinking as a gay man he starts to feel a regret that this lady is wanting the truth for own safety and decides he has to let the truth out for all who want to know in his area about who is on what is known as “The Down Low” and sends a second response of “I can’t lie; Yes”.


Meet Charlie as known as Eros. Eros is a proud part of the gay community and life of any party in many communities alike. That Tuesday he sent a video posting over Facebook letting thousands nationwide know that he was going to tell who was on the DL that he had known of. Within minutes his friends request was filled. Women all over wanting to get their eyes fixed on who was going to be on that list.

“I couldn’t believe how many people actually paid attention to my page and its postings. That one posting let me know that there are people paying attention to what I have say or show them.” Truth is this was an amazing post to get the gossip and talk confirmed and the female communities jumped on it. But why was it so important now? So many years of this going on; why expose the names and actions? Was it an issue of hurt, revenge, or reconciliation?


Eros replied “Truth be told All of the above; but more so for the women that deserve to know what is going on. That these men are out here as masculine as they are but still are seeking to satisfy the side of them that wants men. They are gay.”



In 2004 J.L. King Author of the book “On The Down Low” sat on the Oprah Winfrey show to present the “A Secret Sex World : Living on the down Low”. In the interview J.L. admitted to living the DL lifestyle but denied being Gay. Claiming that find these men to get with; that he was not looking in gay bars or any other gay areas. He was finding his matches in singles bars, heterosexual clubs, and surprisingly enough the church…


J.L. says there’s a stigma that exists for gay men, and he doesn’t see himself that way. “I don’t want to get caught up in the whole gay culture because people look at gay people as being less than a man, that you are this sissy … this less than,” he says. “The greatest taboo is to be black and homosexual, and I refuse to be labeled and classified as this character.”

J.L. says men in the black community who come out and say, “I’m gay and proud,” are treated differently. “All of a sudden I become: ‘Oh, I want you to meet my gay friend, J.L. I want you to meet my gay brother, J.L. I want you to meet my gay father, J.L.,'” he says. “I don’t want that.”

But I ask; because you do not want the negative reactions and you go through with the acts; does that qualify you as gay? I myself say YES it very much does! But the dangers in the release of information can have hazardous results. Eros went on to say; “There are women out the who are needing to know to be aware of what is really going on. They have no clue of what the men out there are doing and bringing it back to home. There are also women who do know or have a suspicion of activity and they ignore all the signs just so they will not be alone.” So if there are women who are ignoring the fact that they have a suspicion, this points out how much more than denial; more over so a self abuse to their own mental being that they inflict on themselves. “If you have to ask me if your man is gay or on the DL with me or others; what should that be saying to you?” says Eros. “These women ignore the obvious they refuse to act on suspicion just to have Man.” MASCULINITY MEANS NOTHING!

After minutes to hours of replies to the Posting of Eros’s Blast list. His page had been reported to Facebook by those in fear of postings of names and those who did not want that list to be involved with themselves. Facebook blocked the post for a few hours; only to release it because it was on his page and he did not single out any of those that reported the post or commit anything wrong. Later he made a video from Las Vegas out of the way of his home area The Quad Cities where things are in a massive debate and frenzy over this LIST. “ I still have plans of writing a tell all book; and starting my own video blog area. I did this to help these women and other young gay men to be able to be aware and come out and speak.” “So many issues, STD Awareness, Man sharing not just with other women but among the gay communities as well.” He went on to say; “I don’t care about those women who knowingly accept and have no care about their own lives.” He claims this was done as a service of responsibility.


There is no easy way to take on this topic for some. But for me there is no way around it; If you are participating in homosexual activity; Point Blank your GAY! Does that make me fear them? No. But it does make me fear that more than one of these men is spreading increasing chances of the spread of STD among women who have a right to know. The only way for this Blast list to have been avoided would have been for these men to come clean. But we also must realize that not all communities are going to react in an accepting manner. Also the threats of harm to Eros and other gays DL or not.


“I have always disliked the Quad Cities because there is nothing there to give any opportunities. So Vegas is a fresh start with promise.” “I’m not worried about anyone coming to get at me; because then they will be exactly where they are longing to be in the first place; comfortable with a bunch of men in prison!” says Eros.


Know that this was not put together for a name drop session; to see that you can check out the link provided (HERE). I urge that people get involved with your mate enough to know any and all things; if you have questions and suspicions react responsibly. We urge you to leave your comments below. Until next time. Peaceful Journey.  



4 responses

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  2. donna

    Thank you Charlie. People needed a wake up call.

    March 16, 2014 at 12:23 pm

  3. Ashley

    Thank you for this..I recently found out that my (at the time fiance and daughters father) was going around sleeping with men.

    March 17, 2014 at 1:38 am

  4. Tammy

    Wow! It’s bout time! Do u! They should do themselves, it’s not fair to women being given these std and then sleeping around with different people finding out she got std and then try to blame the last person she slept with when she is the one who gave it to them! Wow! B blessed!,!

    March 17, 2014 at 8:15 am

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